Respect

I have been watching with some dispassionate interest all the outing of the sexual harassers in Hollywood. Mind you, the only reason we are seeing this is due to the renown of these people. Who knows all the things that go on in areas where there is less visibility.

Look, I don't know what goes on in these men's minds to make them think this is all okay. To say that I can't even put myself in that place that they inhabit is an understatement. I'm not perfect, not by any stretch. I have a sordid imagination. In reality though, I have enough trouble making friends with the opposite sex, let alone any of that nonsense. I generally don't care who does what with whom. But I do know that those things have to be negotiated. It can't be assumed, especially any kind of sexual activity. I've mentioned that I tend towards more of a radical consent model. Don't do anything unless that other person or persons know exactly what you want to do. Simple. Awkward probably, but it is something that shows you respect the other person. Even if surprise is to be an element of the relationship, that needs to be discussed.

Seriously. Louis CK getting naked and masturbating. That's all fine and good if that was agreed to, but to do that without any, um, foreplay. I can't imagine how horrible of a position that puts the other person in. Plus, while I can only take so much of the guy, I thought he at least understood some of the boundaries between men and women. Evidently not.

And the stories I get from women and what some men send them. The "dick pics" need to stop. First, it is objectively the ugliest part of a man but secondly, shows a narcissism that, I would think, is a completely undesirable trait. If you want to send nudes to each other, fine. I honestly don't care if that is something you are into, but that kind of thing has to be consented to.

I swear, I think about all the things mankind has accomplished and how far we've come in many aspects of society, and then this stuff happens. Have we not left the trees behind? Millenia of evolution and we still have this nonsense.

Well, we still have wars, so maybe we haven't come as far as I would personally desire.

<I reserve the right to add and expound on this post at any time in the future. My levels of outrage change frequently.>