People are Allowed

Over the past couple of years I’ve seen many old and new friends undergo some profound changes in their lives, including myself. I’ve seen relationships grow stronger, weaker, and some have been completely destroyed. I’ve had my own closest relationships under the microscope. Because of this, I probably view relationships as a bit more ephemeral than I have in the past, and I’ve always been a fatalist. I see relationships, both intimate and friendly, as more of a daily choice than something that was ordained. I want to thank those who choose to have me in their lives and state how much I love and respect that choice. Things change. Life changes. Thank you for sticking around. Yeah, I am awesome, and thank you for recognizing that.

I say that because I found this short passage of truisms. Perhaps they are a bit harsh, but I think it is something that I need to keep in mind as people come and go.

people are allowed to leave you.
people are allowed to break up with you.
people are allowed to love you but not want to be with you.
people are allowed to not want to talk to you.
people are allowed to put their happiness before yours and do what makes them happy even if it does not include you.
people are allowed to move on from you.
people are allowed to fall in love with someone else.
people are allowed to not want you in their life.
people are allowed to do whatever they want to better themselves and become the version of themselves they are trying so hard to love.
don’t be bitter towards someone who is only trying to be happy.