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I saw this article last week and I wanted to throw a couple of comments on the wall and see if they stick. The first thing I question is what is meant by "True Love"? Love is incredibly subjective and love might not be returned or felt by the other party. I would venture to guess that there are a lot of people in that situation. Many times, breakups are one sided for whatever reason. I don't know if the survey went into more depth about the situation of "True Love".
Relationships are complicated matters. They mean different things at different times of people's lives. One relationship might be extremely passionate, the next, a deep friendship. Which would qualify as "True Love"? Both have their strengths and weaknesses, potentially. How long do you need to be in a relationship to qualify as "True Love"? Perhaps I'm purposefully muddying the issue. It is just something that lacks definition.
I'm really curious about the 46% of the people who would leave their current relationship for their "True Love". What are the situations of these people? Would they leave their families? What financial hit would they take? I think it is easy to say that they would leave. I'm all for being passionate about someone. I understand that completely. However, how many would feel justified in hurting others in following through with that passion? If there were no consequences, I'm sure almost everyone's lives would change. If your relationship isn't a good one, then by all means, try to remedy it. Life is too short to be miserable.
I wish I could give expression to all the things I question about this article. It may be that my current position in my life has let me see into more relationships than in the past. I see people in a lot of different conditions and have seen relationships change, including my own. I don't know if such simple ideas of "True Love" is operative in a lot of people's lives. Most I find are "Good Enough Love" and there isn't anything wrong with that.
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